Boundaries

"Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have". ~ Anonymous

Boundaries reflect how we love ourselves and what we value most deeply. Boundaries impact our capacity at work, with authority, with our money and our sexuality. Knowing when we want to say yes, when we want to say no, what feels like self-respect and where our own needs start and end are the foundations that build our boundaries, which control our lives.

In order to not deal with a changing relationship between ourselves and the people we love, people often commit to rigid boundaries or have no boundaries set at all. Where is the happy medium? How can we avoid being the "doormat" and the "bulldozer"?

Never learning that setting a boundary is equivalent to letting go of the outcome in any given situation.

Rethinking our boundaries is important, because if we are unable to keep commitments without constant resentment and you do for others in the name of "love", often means, "I love" is really "I feel obligation". Learn to sense and articulate needs. These are the parameters we expect from others as well as ourselves.