Sunday, October 19, 2014

Phase One Complete

Anyway, the house plants have been transported from the shore house to the Plymouth Meeting house and now the living room looks like a jungle. I think I am going to have to put some of these plants in the spare bedroom until next spring. I cleaned out the food from freezer and the cabinets and now it looks as if I went grocery shopping here in Plymouth because we brought that food home. I still have to clean out the refrigerator at the shore house and that will be next weekend's project. Most of the linens were transported so I can wash them up this week after work and return them for storage next weekend. Checks were written out for the winterizing and awning removal for the winter months.

My sister and I went into the town of Cape May for massages then to Aleathea's for a wonderful breakfast. It was our last sisterly shore adventure for the season as she will not be down next weekend because she will be on a cruise in the Caribbean with friends.

I just completed a book "Fortune's Children, The Fall of the House of Vanderbilt". It was an excellent book and I really enjoyed reading it as I was already familiar with the houses and characters since we just went to Newport. I read another book "The Vanderbilt s" prior to "Fortune's Children" which was a basic overview of the family origins. This afternoon I started a new book called "Outlander". Outlander has 45 chapters so I expect it to take a little while longer (read the last two in a week) to read unless I do nothing else (work, clean, ect) except read which is about as realistic as pigs flying.

I really should get back to the jungle (living room) and come up with a plan for the plants. (Maybe, they should board at my parents' house for the winter)

Saturday, October 18, 2014

My Morning View

The Close of the Season is Upon Us

It is a beautiful morning here in Cape May as I was awoken by the songs of the birds and the smell of the crisp salt in the air. The cool breeze that blew in from the windows surrounding my bedroom felt delightful as I automatically crawled down deeper beneath the down comforter in the bed. I heard Bill stirring around in the kitchen where he put on a pot of coffee. A cool breeze and the smell of fresh brewing coffee motivated me from the bed to the sofa in the living room where I curled up in a blanket and began to look out at the view of the wet lands with its tall grasses a variety of green and brown colors and the many varieties of birds that feasted. I spotted a bird I have never seen before. It was small approximately the size of my finger. I watched as it danced across the grasses. There were several robins looking for worms and I wondered why they were looking for worms in land that must be tainted in salt. Do worms live in salted ground? Do robins eat worms from salted ground? Depending on the amount of rain that has fallen in previous days and the tide, the wetlands can be very dry to very wet. Only one day did the water travel all the way up to the back of the house during high tide and a previous heavy rain fall.

It is quiet here. On occasion you may hear distant traffic however most of the time the only sounds one hears are from the wild life or the wind as it taps the windows. Our house is surrounded by windows. We have five windows in the living room and four windows in the kitchen. The living room can be entered by the sliding glass doors that come in from the screen room. Our bedroom has two windows whereas the two lofts on the second floor have two and three windows respectively. When you enter through the front of the house you will enter through another set of sliding doors to the screen room. If you enter through the back of the house from the deck, you enter through a set of sliding doors into the back of the screen room. All in all there are three sets of sliding doors for entrance into and out of both the screen room and main house. The stand alone shed out back holds our bikes, beach chairs, beach umbrella, out door tools, gardening supplies and toys. We have a fire pit in the back that is covered with a tarp but will be stored in the shed for the winter when we close next weekend. This weekend the goal is to clean out the cabinets of food along with most items in the refrigerator and freezer. We will bring all food items home this weekend. The linens have already been stripped from the upstairs beds (kids). I will bring all the linens home to wash then bring back next weekend and store in vacuum pack containers and store in the downstairs closets. Indoor plants will come home this weekend.  The clothes in the bedroom and hall closets will also be brought home. Next weekend I will store all those stuff animals the kids have down here in vacuum pack containers and leave them down here and before we leave next Sunday, the screen room furniture will be stored indoors and the living room sofa will be trashed as to force us to purchase a new living room sofa next spring.

We are going to pay someone to roll up the awning and winterize the pipes. We will call the cable company and have the cable/internet discontinued until next April. We will leave the electric on but shut down the box so the outdoor lights do not automatically come on at night. I never realized how much work there was in closing down a house for a season and I am sure there is just as much work as opening up the house too. Our heating system and stove are supplied by propane tanks. We generally shut those tanks off every-time we leave the house for the week anyway. It has been an amazing first year down here and the neighbors are very friendly. The community is safe as it is a gated community so no one gets in without an automatic pass on your car that automatically opens the gate after passing by a guard. The best part of being here is family. We are surrounded by family as both my parents and sister have homes in the community. We started a tradition of having coffee at my house whereas Bill makes the coffee and my sister comes over and we chat over our morning coffee while planning out the day and enjoying the view of the wetlands.

I feel extremely blessed today.

Friday, October 17, 2014

Another Step Forward

After work today we will drive to the shore house and begin the process of closing down the house for the winter. The goal is to have the house closed by next Sunday. Most weekends in November are already booked with events. There are a few concerts, a baby shower and a weekend getaway to the mountains for Nikolas's 10th birthday already planned. This will be the third year in a row we celebrated Nikolas's birthday at the same resort in the mountains. The boys really enjoy going to the resort especially eating at the Hibachi Grill Restaurant. In addition to the pool and hot tub, we love to hike through the paths in the woods. Nikolas will also be walking in this year's Thanksgiving Parade with the Cub Scouts.

After a difficult week, I made a decision last night to #1 delete numbers from my cell phone #2 close down FB #1  helps me to let go and be less impulsive #2 allows me to read more books and play less games. It is time to cease the battle within my brain and move forward in different aspects of my life.

Having intelligence is a double edge sword. School was never difficult and having the ability to conceptualize has lead to a successful career however the mind never stops. It over thinks. And over thinks. And for God sake over freaking thinks. No wonder there is a saying "ignorance is bliss"!

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Monday, October 13, 2014


She was in my dreams again last night. I was looking for her and I could not find her. I would see her appear then when I went to her, she again disappeared. I cannot remember all the details but I could feel the loss.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Rule #1 for a Positive Life Worth Living

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they will make room for you. You should not have to fight for a spot. Never ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth and remember, it is not the people that stand by your side when you are at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you are at your worst that are your true friends. (Marc & Angel)

Saturday, October 11, 2014

Letters To Ava

Dear Ava,

Pop Pop Bill and I just spent a wonderful week exploring various historical sites in some of the New England States with a concentration in the states of Rhode Island, Connecticut and New York.  There are two things that I like the most, travelling and history. I have a "bucket list" of places I want to see and cultures I want to experience before I leave this earth. I made a decision a year ago that the months of exploring and travel will be in April and October. I am a planner therefore my mind is always searching out the next place and I spend the six months prior researching places and prices and saving to go see and experience these places. I never go on tours because tours take one to tourist traps especially in other countries so we fly then rent a car so we can explore how people live, what they eat and at a pace in which we choose to travel. Granted we may take a tour of a historical house like some of the houses in Newport Rhode Island, however, we only do that if it is the only way to see a place otherwise we research and read as we go.

Out of all the places we visited this past week, I found myself in love with the beauty of Newport Rhode Island not because there are ostentatious Vanderbilt mansions but because the waves crash up along the cliffs and spray their water high up in the air. I love the sound of the ocean, the smell of salt air and I am in awe of its power and beauty. Pop Pop Bill refers to me as an Island Girl because I seek solace in the ocean.

I really enjoyed touring Hyde Park particularly Franklin D Roosevelt's house. Though the Roosevelts were wealthy they were not ostentatious like the Vanderbilts and they had a home which was "lived in". They were down to earth people and as you take American History classes in school, you will learn about the extraordinary things the Roosevelts did for this country. I never knew that it was Franklin Roosevelt that started the March of Dimes and facilitated the events that resulted in Salk discovering the vaccine for polio therefore eradicating polio from our country and throughout the world. Pretty amazing stuff to say the least. The man was more than World War II or the New Deal.

Anyway, I saw your father yesterday and we had a nice three hour visit. He looks and sounds well. I am glad he is accepting advice and focusing on exercising his mind and body. He reads a lot of books and I know this because I am the one who ships the books and I generally send between seven to ten books a shipment. He realizes he is fortunate to have a supportive family and there are many others who do not have support so he shares his books once he reads them. I am glad he hands them out because it is always important to "give back" no matter what the situation. I try to do my part by shipping the big books of NA and AA and other such daily readers to those incarcerated who want them. It is not much but it is something. Your father always "worked out" on a daily basis and continues to do so. Exercise is good for one's physical and emotional health. He has been attending mass every week as well. I am glad he has reconnected with his childhood Catholic faith and believes in a higher power.

At some point in the near future I will open up a private fund for you to access when you become of age. I sent a backpack on behalf of your father and a small collection of Wizard of Oz dolls. I hope you received them. I did not realize until yesterday how much your absence affected my own father.He misses you. We love you, Ava. I hope you know that.

Mom Mom