Monday, June 11, 2018

I wonder if I have been too harsh in my thinking. She could have been doing the best she could with an impossible situation. Maybe I should consider the entire picture? Maybe she felt as though she needed to protect her child? Maybe I am being selfish? Maybe I should just let it all go? I decided a long time ago I would not push the issue that I needed to come to grips with the decision. That I would wait by the sidelines with a hope that she will find her way back into my life. I guess I am human. Loss is something I must endure. 

3 comments:

Unknown said...

Hi Patricia

I noticed you had a blog (well over a decade ago!) that talks about being related to a man with a surname called 'malervy' from Ireland. I'm just commenting to let you know the malervy clan still exists in Ireland, as well as england now and other places.

The family is originally from longford, and yes there are several different variants 'I've seen my great grandfather being put down as melervy or something like that in the 1901 census however this may be because there were communication errors, surnames weren't as fixed in stone back then and my mother's family also changed the spelling of their name at the turn of the century. My dad has cousins up in longford, but my granddad emigrated from longford when he was a teenager in search of work in england and never returned. He ended up settling in County Meath where I'm from.

As for further back, I'd love to help you but the records really aren't there. My granddad passed away in 2004 but he had spent many years scouring archives looking for anything relating to malervy's but to no avail. I've found records of Malervy's in longford in the 19th century tithe records but they were catholic peasants and I don't think they were literate. As for the surname, its extremely odd and we're not entirely sure where its from.

my dad and I have found a french Huguenot surname of 'malherbe' which pronounced with an irish accent phonetically is eerily similar to malervy. this is just speculation though because the malervy family is catholic as far as we can go back, however they were trades people which is in line with a huguenot origin. how huguenots ended up in the arse end of rural longford is any mans guess.

if you have any queries , feel free to email me malervyr@tcd.ie , genealogy is fascinating and because of the uniqueness of the surname we are probably related about two or three generations back :)

Ross Malervy

lean1954 said...

Hi Pat.

I just came across your blog today (14 May 2019) and am wondering if you are still out there. The name Boland caught my eye as my grandmother, Frances Tyrrell Sullivan, had a friend with that last name, but I think her first name was Jean. I have a photo of the two of them standing in front of a house on Krail Street in East Falls. The photo is from 1918.

My name is Eileen Flynn. I went to St. Bridget's. I noticed two photos on your blog that I am in. One is the 1968 St Bridget graduating class and the other is from the library.

Eileen

Unknown said...

Very nice article on Potters Fields in Philadelphia. Thank you so much. How does one go about finding which Potters Field a relative was buried at circa 1951. Thank you MJE